{"id":49800,"date":"2019-06-12T00:00:07","date_gmt":"2019-06-11T23:00:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/flashpacknew.wpengine.com\/?p=49800"},"modified":"2024-05-16T11:23:17","modified_gmt":"2024-05-16T10:23:17","slug":"ed-stafford-danger-become-your-best-self","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.flashpack.com\/us\/solo\/wellness\/ed-stafford-danger-become-your-best-self\/","title":{"rendered":"Ed Stafford: Don’t avoid danger \u2013 it’ll help you become your best self"},"content":{"rendered":"

We’re all very safe and organised in the way that we live our lives nowadays. But in his monthly Flash Pack column, adventurer Ed Stafford<\/a> makes the case for risk-taking as a vital element of growth<\/strong><\/p>\n

Toddlers, kittens and young animals across the world use play to learn. Play is a mock version of real life and helps prepare us for what lies ahead. It hones skills and it teaches tactics \u2013 it has a clear positive role in juvenile development. But there comes a day in every kid\u2019s life when the toys get boring and too childish and they are ready for a new phase of learning. For that new phase to manifest you have to add one vital, somewhat contentious ingredient. Welcome to the rather edgy world of risk.<\/p>\n

Channelling the power of risk<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Walking<\/p>\n

Play + Risk = Adventure. Now you have a framework for learning that is unbounded. The stakes are higher for a start \u2013 climb a tree and there is now a consequence to getting it wrong. Pain, injury or worse become important motivators that ensure we are focused. These motivators seem negative at first but if you think about it, they add an interest that will never get childish and will allow a person to continue to develop throughout their whole life. Who can resist the seductive lure of danger?<\/p>\n

Read more: Ed Stafford on the lessons learnt from solo travel<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Danger is exciting in a similar way that gambling provides a rush. Except I would argue that this thrill is healthy for you as it pushes you towards excellence. You are certainly not playing any more if the risk assessment includes potentially fatal activities that you calmly acknowledge, knowing that you still plan to conduct them.<\/p>\n

There is something about the thrill of being in a situation where you are forced to use every ounce of wit to get out of it. Danger drags us kicking and screaming into an advanced classroom of life where one can develop skills that will set you apart as an adult.<\/p>\n

Perseverance, determination, and hard work are the qualities fleshed out by a long tough endurance feat, but route that same feat through an area of drugs traffickers and hostile tribes and you begin to develop more subtle skills: persuasion, ingenuity, containment, and even charm become weapons that could keep you alive.<\/p>\n

Danger as a tool for growth<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Reading<\/p>\n

Whilst walking the Peruvian section of the Amazon, I think it would be fair to say there were many dangers. On entering Pichari, the gateway to the infamous \u201cRed Zone\u201d, I had no permits to walk through this lawless area. The Red Zone is the drugs trafficking area that I\u2019d been warned by the Peruvian consulate to avoid entering. They could not guarantee my safety, but the headwaters of the Amazon flow straight through it so it was always going to be part of my route.<\/p>\n

But how do you play such a scenario when the national police force can\u2019t even enter without a gun fight kicking off? I\u2019d been told several times that if I stumbled across a drugs processing plant that I\u2019d simply disappear \u2013 never to be seen again. So where should I start?<\/p>\n

Read more: Why taking risks is the key to success<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

My gut feeling was that trying to sneak through would make me look suspicious, and so I decided to go to the camouflaged bunker that housed the Rhonderos (the drugs traffickers\u2019 own self-appointed policing force) and told them what I was doing. I looked them in the eye, stood with open palms, and tried to pitch my demeanour somewhere between respectful and confident (despite being not feeling either emotion).<\/p>\n

If I was too bold, too arrogant, I would be swiped away by these all powerful men as an irritant that could cause them problems. They were the big piranhas in this little pond that I needed to cross. If I was too meek and showed fear I could have been laughed out of the building and sent back the way I\u2019d come. Nuances were everything and I was constantly reading faces and body language in order to adapt my own accordingly.<\/p>\n

Learning to rely on your instincts<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Ed<\/p>\n

I wasn\u2019t 100% honest either I have to admit. I knew there had been at least three expeditions before me in kayaks over the last decade. This set a precedent of sorts, and so I told the Rhonderos that I was kayaking (I did have a small inflatable Alpacka<\/em> raft with me for crossing the river). The sweaty, overweight and self-important man just grunted and wrote me a permit to conduct an expedition through the entire Red Zone. He forgot to mention kayaks in the document luckily, and so my permit had no such restrictions.<\/p>\n

Read more: Ed Stafford’s strategies on how to face fear<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

I would be able to be the first person ever to walk through the area where two-third\u2019s of the world\u2019s cocaine is grown, and I had the official permission of the drug lords themselves. Time to allow my pulse to slow down a little then.<\/p>\n

What course or class could have taught me the skills required to deal with situations like this? I would argue that, despite being trained at the Royal Military Academy Sandhurst for a year (leadership and military studies) even that didn\u2019t scratch the surface compared to being thrown in the deep end and knowing that my very life was at risk if I made the slightest error of judgement.<\/p>\n

No more playing safe\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Ed<\/p>\n

At a less extreme level the reason expeditions are so much fun is that plans go wrong and logistics fail. You are constantly forced to adapt and overcome problems. This teaches resourcefulness, flexibility, and how to think outside the box. It also encourages a robust sense of humour as otherwise you\u2019d be pulling you hair out and head-butting trees every time a local guide didn\u2019t show up or a boat you hired was double booked.<\/p>\n

Read more: Feel the fear with these 6 daredevil challenges<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

The truth is that we live in such manicured and organised lives that real problems that need practical solutions don\u2019t present themselves as often as they might. Even if problems in everyday life do occur they can usually be fixed by Googling a man who can fix it and paying him some money. That\u2019s not living \u2013 that\u2019s outsourcing your very validity as a human being.<\/p>\n

We don\u2019t learn much if we repeat the same things day in day out. We don\u2019t learn much if we know we are safe and the consequences are trivial. So drag your grey life into glorious technicolour and go on an adventure. One that you know will be tough, that scares you a little, and potentially you may fail at. It will be an unparalleled fast-track in your personal development and set you on course to become the very best version of you.<\/p>\n

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Take more risks with these game-changing escapes<\/h3>\n

Push your boundaries and become your best self<\/p>\n

Smash your comfort zone in South Africa<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Abseiling<\/p>\n

Abseil down Table Mountain in Cape Town, learn how to surf, paddle-board the Cape Peninsula and swim with seals. Adventure beckons from every angle on this soul-stirring escape to South Africa’s Garden Route and the Eastern Cape.<\/p>\n

All aboard<\/a><\/p>\n

Salute a brave new world in Colombia<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Tubing<\/p>\n

Raise a glass to Colombia’s recent and vibrant rebirth in this intoxicating corner of the world. Tube down Palomino River in the heart of the jungle wilderness, kayak across the Guatap\u00e9 reservoir and take part in a riotous local game involving gunpowder and beer in the capital Bogot\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Let’s get going<\/a><\/p>\n

Stretch your limits in Jordan<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Jeeping<\/p>\n

Canyon through the valley riverbed of the mighty Wadi Mujib, with towering ravines either side. Then hike a back-door route to the Rose Red City of Petra, jeep across the desert and glamp out in the Wadi Rum with a sunrise camel ride.<\/p>\n

Adventure awaits<\/a><\/p>\n

Images: Flash Pack, Shutterstock, Ed Stafford, Pete McBride, Keith Ducatel, James Hall<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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